Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Robert Wesley Handy's Obituary

This is the man you ignored, Duke Medical. He was a very important and loved man. He was more than just an old man with cancer.

Robert Wesley Handy
May 19, 1933 - January 15, 2010

Robert Wesley Handy, age 76, of Cary, N.C., went to be with the Lord, Friday, January 15, 2010. He passed away peacefully at home with his wife and daughter by his side after a long courageous battle with colon cancer (and multiple complications from the cancer treatments).

Bob was a graduate of Brown University (B.S.), Stevens Institute of Technology (M.S.) and UNC-Chapel Hill School of Pharmacy (Ph.D). Bob Handy was employed with Research Triangle Institute as a Medicinal Research Scientist in the Chemistry and Life Sciences from 1964-2000. He coached little league boy's baseball and basketball for Cary Parks and Recreation for over 20 years and was an active member of the Mayflower Society and the Republican Party.

His parents and his son, Roy Wesley Handy, preceded Bob in death. His is survived by Carol Fackler Handy, his loving wife of 55 years; daughter Cheryl A. Handy of Cary; son Peter W. Handy, daughter-in-law Lisa Valbusa Handy of San Mateo, California; 3 granddaughters; sister Barbara J. Kressin of Cardiff, California, brother-in-law James Kressin; 5 nieces and 2 nephews.

The family wishes to extend special thanks to Duke physicians Michael Morse, M.D. and Mark E. Easley, M.D. and Duke Physical Therapist Dana Pierson.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made directly to "Dr. Michael Morse's Research" for colon-rectal cancer research, DUMC, Box 3233, Durham, NC 27710.

Details about memorial arrangements are being arranged and will be announced at a later time.


  1. Dear Cheryl,
    I read your dad's obituary and thought of you while I read it. It is obvious that your dad was a special and accomplished professional and family man. You were there for him and that must have meant the world to both him and your mom. Your love must have carried him over to where he was going from here, I just feel it. I don't know you very well, but I believe we will know each other for a long time. Be strong, and take care of your mom now! Best Wishes, your friend Naomi Litvin.

  2. Thank you dear Naomi. This has been a tougher 4 weeks then I could imagine. I hope that from my blog people take that every single moment with their precious parents is a gift from G*d.

    Miss tweeting. Hard to do when sad. Be back soon. Cheryl